SAHM going to the doctor alone?

I have two kiddos. A 3 year old and one year old. I'm also pregnant. I'm a SAHM.

I took my youngest with me to my initial OB appointment last month, as it tends to be a long one. It was pretty terrible. She wasn't patient at all and it was very stressful. My next appointment is tomorrow. My husband took a few hours off work so I could go. Except, he thought I was taking the baby?

My appointment is at 8:40, and is 30 mins away. My daughter naps around 8:45, so taking her would mean missing her morning nap. Also, I told him that last appointment they specifically told me I couldn't bring her to any other appointments. He was upset by this, as she still nurses and he feels like you can't tell a nursing mom they can't bring their baby. Which, I understand...but she only nurses in the morning and before bed.

He got upset when I said I hadn't planned to take her. He said I needed to tell those people "eff you" and bring her with me. I explained if I had to bring her, I would have, but she will be fine napping at home and won't need me. He then said I just wanted to "pawn her off". That really bothered me. I explained that I take the kids everywhere with me, but that it was stupid to take her and disrupt her routine if he was already going to be home with the toddler. I also explained that it's very difficult to focus at appointments when I have her and that last time was very stressful. He told me if it wasn't "a Covid world right now" then he wouldn't be staying home at all, and I would need to take both kids with me because that's my job at a SAHM.

I feel pretty upset. I don't pawn my children off on anyone. We don't have family nearby to help at all. I spend 14 hours a day with my children. I don't get PTO. I think it's acceptable to go to an OB appointment alone. I mean, this one won't be exciting, but I can't imagine taking a toddler and infant to an appointment where they examine my cervix or something. Like, what all rights did I forfeit as a SAHM? I never poop alone. I never eat alone. I can't even go to the doctor alone? I usually take the kids to my appointments as well.

I just didn't think it would be a big deal. But he's never stayed home with both kids except during naptime. Which, my youngest will be sleeping while I'm gone. It might be petty, but I'd like to point out he took off today to play a video game and has been doing that for 12 hours now. I never asked him for anything or interrupted him all day. I made him breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

I just feel like he was calling me a bad SAHM, and that really hurt my feelings. He's never once had to take the kids to an appointment or an errand with him. 🤦‍♀️