He confessed that he has been unfaithful

He cannot blame you for being unfaithful! Simple as that!

Leave his ass. He is literally trying to blame YOU for cheating. Like you didn’t push him into a vagina! No no no. You deserve better & you may love him, and shit, he may love you but that won’t stop him from cheating; clearly! If he can’t even take the responsibility for his actions that is already telling you the type of man he is. Dump his sorry ass, heal, love yourself & do what makes YOU happy. Throw his sorry ass in the garbage 🗑 ✌🏻

So do you really wanna marry someone who is going to cheat on you every time you are having mental health struggles?? I have had mental health issues and I guess you could say push my husband away a lot recently but he would never cheat and if he did I would leave because I could not handle the pain, paranoia, and mistrust that would come from it. Leave now before you get married.

he may of admitted he was wrong for cheating, but he isn't taking responsibility if he's still trying to say it's your fault for pushing him away. personally i'd leave. sure he came clean, but who knows if he actually did that because he felt guilty or if he was just scared you'd find out anyways like maybe the girl was threatening to tell you herself or something. either way, if you're pushed to the point of wanting to cheat then you either express that to your partner along with the way you're feeling and what you need to change, or you leave. him feeling like you're pushing him away is not an excuse to cheat and it just shows that when things get hard he isn't reliable and will easily give in to his temptation. i just don't see how him not liking how you react to your trauma would make him think "oh i want to go fuck someone else" like?? and then him still turning around saying YOU just need to be better so he doesn't cheat again is absolute bullshit. i couldn't move past it, but if you want to try to make it work then you also have to think about the future as well. like will you be able to actually forgive him, are you going to have issues with trusting him so much that it'll affect your mental health, will you be scared anytime you fight or your relationship goes through a rough patch that he will go out and cheat? there's a lot of things to consider but it's important to make sure that you won't be sacrificing your mental health for a cheater.

Advice: he's a massive douche using your emotional scars as an excuse to be free with his peen. Nothing can push someone to cheat if they truly love you and want to be with you. If you shoulder the blame for his cheating how will you ever heal? How will you trust him? It sounds like this relationship is not a healthy one at all.

If he's blaming you for why he cheated then he's not taking accountability for his actions. Don't marry him. If he knew that you were working on yourself because of something you've been through, and his reaction is to go cheat then he's a shit partner and a shit man.Love yourself enough to leave. Keep working on yourself and your healing journey because he's going to keep throwing disasters in along the way that sets you back.

The moment he blamed you he wasn't taking responsibility for his choice of cheating, he will do it again because he will think it's okay to blame you again. Don't stay with him if he won't take responsibility for it 100% and prove to you he won't do it again. But I can see him doing it again. You deserve someone who supportive to you specially when your having a hard time. Don't settle for a boy, get a man who loves and respects you and doesn't blame you or lie to you.

Your trauma is not an excuse for him to cheat. He sounds like a loser to me

Nope not an excuse, not your fault. I have been with a guy for three years. I have a lot of insecurity, control issues myself from trauma. I used to be clingy and get mad at him over everything. I was threatened by every girl that came around. We broke up and 7 months later, he hasnt moved on, hasnt been with anyone else, and says hes still waiting for me. I know hes not lying because he personally isnt into hook ups or meaningless sex and only does it when he has feelings. Hes also always been trustworthy about EVERYTHING. Even stuff I probably shouldnt of known but asked because I was insecure. So my point is its not your fault. He has some issues as well, maybe the need to be validated or having attention? Maybe hes unable to be alone or secure enough with himself so he looked for it in another female. If your willing to look past it as meaningless and a product of his issues, then stay with him. If you cant look past it, then thats perfectly understandable as well. Only you can decude that, and i suggest not being with him until he acknoledges his issues as well. I also suggest you both working on your issues alone and maybe trying again in the future. Its much easier that way.

He literally somehow blamed you for him cheating!? He needs to go. Definitely don’t marry him.