I’m (19F) currently an EMT-b working on a fire department. I’ll eventually be going to school to get my paramedic and firefighter certifications. Also to include, In the Army National Guard. My bf (26M) is currently in the police academy to become a full time police officer.

Recently, he started the academy and I’ve been working day shifts for training. Our schedules right now are pretty similar.

Right now, the only problem I feel is that we never have much time together. After we both get home we are preparing for the next day, eating dinner, then going to bed. I’m not sure if it’s just not feeling right to me because I’m not used to this adult type of relationship or If something is actually wrong.

We’ve been together for 6 months now, a few of which I was in army basic training, and we’ve been going pretty strong.

We’ve been talking about plans in the future, yes I know it’s so soon to be talking about, and we want the same things in life. Marriage, a house, kids, etc.

The only worry I have with that is what it’ll be like with us both working those jobs. He said we can make our schedules match up so we work the same days, nights, overnights, etc with our crazy schedules which I’m sure will work for the time being. Later on, definitely years from now, we want kids and that’s my biggest worry.

When we do have children he said we can always have babysitters, our parents watching them, etc. I just have the fear of our kids growing up wondering where mommy and daddy are and why their friends have their parents with them every night but they don’t.

I’m assuming we can both try to eventually get full time day shift schedules to fix that but you can never be certain.

It’s very cute saying we’re both first responders but I’m not sure if our career choices will work out in the end. I don’t want either of us have to stop doing what we love.

Any advice is appreciated!