I’m needing advice on how to deal with all of this after 4 years of being with my fiancé. We live with his parents with our 2 kids. His parents have done a lot for us and our kids, etc. I’ve been dealing with his moms bad looks and snide comments about things I do etc. she makes me feel like what I do will never be good enough. None of his family really have a relationship with me and they really haven’t gotten to know me at all that much in the last 4 years. My boyfriend and I have been through a lot over the last year. I left him because of his family. His mother has called me trash and a b word, lazy etc and makes me feel like I’m not a good mother. She has told me she has talked to someone about what to do about me and they said to make a chore chart with stars.. and she lies about me all the time to people and makes up on things inside her head that aren’t even true. She is always saying I should leave my bf and the kids and move back home to where I’m from and come visit on holidays. She says that she and other people don’t think I want to be a full time parent just because I don’t wake up at 7am. Which I’ve started getting better at. When I try and talk to them about my bf they all say I’m snitching but when he does it it’s perfectly fine. I don’t have anyone to talk to about my problems. He always defends his family or he is always like omg here we go again with the negativity. My bf says he’s in the middle of it all like his mom complains to him about me and I notice things she does how she shakes her head about things and acts annoyed all day long. I don’t really talk to any of his family because they always twist my words etc or they just act like they don’t care about the conversation. Now his sister got engaged a few months ago and all my kids, my boyfriend, her sister and cousin are all gonna be apart of the wedding and not me. She was in the room when I gave birth to my daughter and I asked her to be the god mom of her. I know I shouldn’t be feeling like this but I’m so hurt and it makes me feel like I’m not good enough to be a part of this family. 2 Christmas’s ago she made shirts with all b on the back for there last names and put a m on mine for my last name and my bf said why didn’t you just put b and his mother yells out “you gotta earn our last name” and I was so embarrassed. Me and my boyfriend have been engaged for 2 years now and his sister and her fiancé have been together for a year and they are getting married and when we talk about a wedding with his parents they brush it off and don’t talk about it and when my fiancé says we’re engaged to people his mother always makes some comment about it like a exasperated “oh my g”. I’m just so tired.My family isn’t much help because they are back home and they don’t really know what to say or do because they haven’t had to deal with this before.

I’m sorry I just needed to rant. Please give me advice on what to do. I can’t stand up for myself because I’m scared of them all. I’m starting counseling because I’m “crazy” for thinking they all hate/dislike me etc and all these things are in my head. Did you stand up to them and how? Did you leave? What was your outcome? Thank you ❤️