Goodness I don’t even know where to start. My husband and I have known each other since 2008…it has been rocky ever since however I was one determined lady…doing all my best to make it to work…I ignored every red flag and now I’m in a huge mess…I’m basically 6 weeks pregnant, preparing for a separation/divorce after just 7 months of marriage

It just seems like we were never meant to be married…we have been through so much…when I tell you I was ready to call off the wedding a week to it holding and somehow our Deacon talked me back into it…telling me is the devil when I was so sure it was my husband…because there must be some Devil dwelling in him.

Fast forward we did get married however with me being busy wedding planning…I missed the whole plan that this man and his family had that they were going to move his 23 year old brother from NJ to my home…a home that I pay 50/50 split bills everything with my husband without talking to me about it beforehand…this is something I made my husband very clear before marriage that I am against living with any family members-mine or his because of the trauma of it breaking my parents marriage- strike 1. I have tried several times to make him understand he is wrong for not ever discussing this with me beforehand but he feels since he is the man of the house he can make decisions for both of us. I was shocked and was like who did I really marry or is the whole man of the house getting to him because we just got married…this issue is still unresolved and always cause a huge rift between us whenever his brother is around (he is currently in college 1.5 hours from our home)

2nd strike: This man last month told me to start buying dog things because we are getting a dog…I am not an animal person and he knows this…I told him in no way do I want a dog or the responsibility. We were TTC then and I told him…we need to focus on being parents first…but I guess I was talking to deaf ears again. From a conversation with his “work mother” last Sunday…she told me she will be visiting us in the next week or two to either visit the new puppy or his biological mother” I was so caught off guard because my husband never ever mentioned to me he was bringing a dog this week or next nor mention his mother will be visiting us from our country and he is fully aware I am pregnant. I bring this up to his attention and asked him again why is an outsider telling me things about my home-strike 3 and his response is that he told me already he was getting a dog and that his mom is coming but he does not know her plans. This man brought a dog home today without my knowledge or consent

I made him aware I cannot continue like this because for the past 7 months we cannot even get a hang of marriage and since he feels like he can call the shots…it is better for him to move out of the house and go buy his own home where he can do as he pleases. He feels hurt that I told him that although he is requesting $30K that he supposedly invested in the home…and honestly I told him I will give him that so he can just go his merry way. After i agreed to the pay off he is now telling me that he talked to a lawyer and is not a good deal and that he wants to share the equity of the house because it is marital property. It is not marital property because I bought the house prior to marrying him and only my name is on the mortgage and deed.

I am literally having to beg him now to please find somewhere to go so we can start the separation process…I’m willing to give him the $30K but if he wants to wait for the court’s judgment that is fine. I don’t need the stress and I would rather just start the process and hopefully be divorced before my baby is born. Please any advice would be much appreciated…soo sorry for the long post