Messy best friend
Sorry for the long story!!
I have a friend I was very close with around 10 years ago and we kept in touch although I moved from our home country to a new country. We are now in our 30s and she has recently moved to my city and has come back into my life. I have realized that she has many behaviours I find questionable and am not sure what to do. She has lied in the past about her financial situation which I forgave as she is insecure and competitive with money. She has slept with my brother in our early 20s and lied to me about this although admitted in when I confronted her. I didn't really mind them sleeping together but I didn't like the lies. She has also told me that she has gone after multiple married men more recently although did not end up sleeping with them. We met up at my house recently and I noticed her flirting with my husband to the point where I was uncomfortable. After that I am just going to meet up with her with just us and not include my husband in the future as it was very awkward. I just have an uneasy feeling about our friendship and I'm not sure if I am doing the right thing in staying friends as we have been so close in the past I have trouble seeing the relationship clearly. I feel like I have moved on from being messy in our 20s but she is maybe still in that same place after watching her flirt with my husband. I do love her a lot and would like to stay close but these behaviours of her make me uncomfortable. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Thanks for the comments. It seems a little more obvious now that its written out. I am going to still keep in touch with some pretty big boundaries- meeting occasionally outside the house just the two of us to catch up and that will be it. Thanks everyone for your thoughts
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