Baby Shower or No Baby Shower?

I didn’t want one because all my family is flakey and I only have a handful of friends. Yet I do have a big family. I decided to give it a try because my husband really wants one so I individually asked 15 people in my family in February if they’re okay with driving 4 hours to my baby shower I’m June and they all said yes. So now I’m considering it.

Today mom brought up that I should plan to do it in her family’s city. The only reason I picked that specific destination is because it’s the halfway point. His family and my family would travel the 4 hours to get there. It’ll be unfair to move it to her family’s town because that means my husband’s family has to travel 9 hours. INCLUDING MYSELF.

Mom keeps saying it’s fair for it to be in their hometown yet I’ll be 8 months pregnant already traveling 4 hours for my own baby shower. I’m not doing 9 hours to accommodate them. I even have my husband’s family in another state looking at plane tickets and hotels to come to the baby shower.

At this point I’m not going to have a baby shower. My husband and I have enough money to raise a family of 5. But there will only be the three of us. We don’t have the excess money to pay for a baby shower that might be about $2000 just for half of these people to say it’s too far last minute. And only receive like $600 worth of baby supplies.

I’m deciding not to have a baby shower if that’s the case.

But then again this is why I didn’t want to have a wedding. Husband and I eloped and my mom had a big ass hissy fit. Calling me names, acting like I ruined her life and chances of seeing at least one of her children get married blah blah blah. But if I can’t even get my own family to drive 4 hours to a baby shower, how do I expect them to do the same for a wedding that will cost SO much more.

I don’t know what to do.