Anyone else feel like the bad guy for standing up for yourelf?

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I’m doing something I should have done a long time ago but I feel awful because I know other people are going to be mad at me. I’m someone who dies not handle conflict well so I let a lot of things go to avoid more 😕 but then things just keep going because it was never fixed

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YES! It's super frustrating because as a kid I was always told to let things go because words are just words, but that only taught me how to be stepped all over. Then because I became a doormat I would get told, "You need to speak up and stand up for yourself." But then when I finally do speak up for myself, "Oh, you're overreacting. You were wrong."
Excuse me, sir, ma'am?🙋🏾‍♀️ Which one is it? Lol
So my advice, stand up, speak up for yourself. It doesn't matter who gets mad. I lost "friends" and "family" after speaking up for myself and I'm all the better for it. You have to take care of you, no matter how uncomfortable it may be.

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Yes! I cried when I broke up with my cheating boyfriend! I felt terrible, but you bet your ass im not gonna be treated that way.

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Yes currently going through this. I've had to put my foot down on a lot of stuff concerning my daughter with her dad and his gf recently and now I'm the evil one. I hate it because I don't like putting my foot down but if they didn't over step, lie to my face and try to manipulate me in the first place then I wouldn't have had to. I'm not good at setting boundaries and sticking to them and every time I try to, I give in because I don't want to fight about it. I know that I can't be a doormat anymore so even though it goes against my instinct, I am making more of a conscious decision to not let people treat me like crap and stand up for myself

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Yep, I’m a doormat.  Then when I do stand up for myself people are so appalled that I’m the bad guy every time even if I was 100% right.

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I absolutely used to, so I empathize. But the past two years I’ve grown a lot, I’ve told people NO a lot, I’ve had to set and hold firm to a lot of boundaries, I’ve lost some friends, but it feels SO GOOD.

Anyone else feel like the bad guy for standing up for yourelf?

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