I really need open minded people so I figured this may be the best group for this situation. Plz no judgment towards me or my husband. He did something that idk if I 100% consider cheating because it wasn't sexual but.... Here's the situation.

My husband has a lot of trauma from his childhood. And he has a coping skill he never told me about. He likes age play. He likes to back to get the missed our innocence. His age play isn't sexual. It's completely for nurturing. He was on ddlg/Mdlb websites to look for a "caregiver" and I found texts between him and his "mommy". It wasn't sexual age play but I felt hurt and betrayed. I asked why he went online instead of telling me and he said he was too ashamed. I don't want this to end our marriage. I'm hoping for advice.

Edit: Ashley ddlg is daddy Dom little girl and mdlb is mommy Dom little boy. It's basically a kink where some one age regresses and acts like a child. The text with the "mommy dom" was role play as if he was a child. It's not sexual for everyone and for him it isn't sexual. It's how he copes with his traumatic childhood. He was too embarrassed to share this "kink" with me.