My best friend doesn’t want her kids!! *UPDATE*

I didn’t know where to put this so hopefully this is ok. I’m not even sure if this is me asking for advice, a what would you do situation, or just me ranting about someone I thought I knew.

So this girl that I’ve been friends with since we were like 12/13 just talked to me last night and told me she doesn’t want her kids anymore. One is just over a year old and the other one is 2 months old. Here’s the thing, she wants ME to take them. She said she loves them and doesn’t want them to go to just any family but one she knows and trusts with her kids.

I wasn’t able to sleep last night thinking about possibly taking these children. I love them, I see them everyday, I watch them at a daycare I work at and I bring them home with me until she gets off work and comes to get them.

I would love to take these babies and love them the same way I do now but I have 9 kids already and I’m pregnant (with triplets) do I really need to add 2 more kids into that mix? I’m not saying I wouldn’t love them the same amount as my other children or that I couldn’t take care of them financially but, I do wonder how they would react to knowing that their mom usually comes and gets them from me and one day she just doesn’t? That’s going to be heartbreaking.

I have asked her if she just needed a few days to herself and I could watch them those few days but she says her mom already does that all the time and it doesn’t help any. I asked her why she doesn’t want them if it was a financial reason or a mental reason that I could try and help her through but she says she just doesn’t want them anymore. Me and my partner have been talking about this all day and we are both totally open to do it we just don’t want her to see us with her children and then want to change her mind.

If you read through all of this, thank you and I’m sorry it was so long. If you do have any advise please feel free to share

UPDATE!!

So first thing this morning she called me and asked if I had talked with my partner about it and if we decided yet. I told her we had thought about it a lot and we really want to do it but we want it legalized, that way if In the future something happens that she couldn’t just decide she wants them back. She absolutely agrees she had already talked to her lawyer about it and was getting paperwork ready. So did she just assume I was going to say yes?

And for those asking yes she did ask her mom and her mom said she wouldn’t do it because she raised her kids already she doesn’t want to start over and start raising her grandchildren which I totally understand, she doesn’t mind watching them a couple times a week for a few hours but doesn’t want to raise them.

The dad is not in the picture, he left after he found out about the second baby.

Big part of the story that I didn’t put in is that before she had the kids she was a drug addict and only got clean because of the babies but constantly talked about wanting to go back to it and she should just go with their dad so she can start using again. I believe that is what she’s going to do. I understand where everyone would get PPD from but I think she truly just wants to start using again.

I have talked to her mom about that this morning and she cried her eyes out, she is going to talk to her about maybe getting into rehab but she doesn’t think she’ll actually go.