Hurtful words from my dad
I recently told my dad that I am 12 weeks pregnant. He was shocked and didn’t seem that upset. This morning I came into his room to see how he was and he told me some hurtful things. He asked me if I would be embarrassed to walk around our neighborhood (where I grew up) with a baby and I said “no not all!” I then asked if he would be embarrassed and he slightly nodded his head which broke my heart. He then told me that the baby would be a weird mixture. I am Asian/black and my boyfriend is Mexican.
I am 30 years old. I am an only child. Both my parents are in their 80’s. I am adopted and my whole life I was told I was Asian (Japanese) but I look mixed. I have a feeling my parents knew I was part black but never said anything. I recently found out through 23andMe that I am half Japanese and Half black. I always had identity issues. My father is German and I grew up speaking German. My mother is Japanese. I feel that my dad is upset that I am not with a German man. I have always felt like an outsider whenever we go to Germany to see his relatives and they never fully accepted me. I felt/feel like speaking and being German was pushed on to me my whole life and I could never be my authentic self. I’ve never felt any cultural connection to Germany besides my dad. My mother is very supportive. I’ve always been closer to my dad so this really hurts.
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