Best friend is recently single and on all the dating apps. Complains that she gets fetishized for being a red head, which is terrible yes, but I think she's being a bit of a hypocrite. She has a thing for POC and soley seeks out POC to date and talks badly about white guys, including in front of our guy friends and my bf. She got mad because she said "the Latino guys I talked to on bumble fetishize me as a red head and that I'm fiery." But the other day she goes "I started to only message ppl on bumble in Spanish (she minored in Spanish in college) and if they respond in English I stop talking to them." I assumed she was joking but I asked "oh do their bios say they speak Spanish or are you just assuming based on their profile? How do you know they speak Spanish and not Portuguese or something else?" And she says "I'm just assuming hehe" and goes on to say "I'm only talking to POC. I want a bilingual man who can cook. Not some pale ass white lumberjack guy. I'd date a guy if he was tan like Greek or Mediterranean but no white guys". When her last serious long term bf broke up with her (He was Urdu and Nigerian) his sister's went off on her and called her a snow bunny.

I get that people have types and preferences but for whatever reason the way she talks about these guys doesn't seem like a "type". And she talks poorly about the white guys shes dated in the past. She didn't like the fact that her last bf wasn't Korean enough and didn't know how to cook. She prides herself as a woke feminist but lots of times it comes off as misandry. She makes jokes about going out with guys only for the expensive dinners. Sometimes she's joking other times she's being serious. Hard to tell these days.

*Disclaimer - She is my best friend and I love her. I don't care who she dates, sometimes I just get frustrated with how she acts and talks about other people. I don't want this to come across as me trying to drag her I just want to know what other people think. Is this normal, is it just a really specific preference? She got pissed and defensive when I confronted her about this and told her she's being a hypocrite.