hi ladies. i need some advice. my “fiancé” and i recently got engaged a couple of months ago. he’s in the marines. he was stationed in hawaii and moved to australia in the beginning of this month for a 6 month deployment. ever since he’s gotten there he’s just been having fun & drinking w his friends every weekend, going to clubs, bars, etc. i was fine w it as long as he didn’t drink too much to the point where he didnt know what he was doing and didn’t do anything to disrespect me or us . and also everything’s expensive asf over there . epescially alchohal . i’ve had to repeatedly tell him how i felt about him drinking but he still did what he wanted. anyways, he just admitted to me yesterday that he’s been keeping something from me & he told me that he went to a strip club the other day that he was out. and he told me that he was broke and didn’t have any money because he’s been spending all his money on alcohol and shit everytime he went out and who knows how much he spent at the strip club LMAO. he waited 3 days to tell me the truth . he finally decided to tell me the truth the day after he went to talk to his brother abt it cause his brother had to tell him that he made a mistake & that he should tell me. i had my ”fiancés” sc password & user so i tried logging in and it said that he changed the password so thats when i knew something was up. he called me after ignoring me for so long time and he finally confessed . he said that he wasn’t even planning to drink that night but one thing led to another and they started bar hopping and ig they somehow showed up at a strip club . he said that he blacked out and didn’t even remember what he did that night and his friends had to tell him . but why would he even keep drinking if he knew how i felt about him not responsibly drinking ? he knew what he was doing. he could’ve stopped himself from getting to that point. there’s no excuses for that. i just think that he’s not mature or responsible enough to make the right decisions. why would he even propose to me if he’s just going to continually mess up? that’s not what almost to be married couples do behind their back. all he’s been doing since he’s gotten there is having fun doing whatever he wants and i’ve told him REPEATEDLY before that he has responsibilities like saving up for the wedding or talking about the wedding considering we HARDLY even have time to talk. hes just not ready to be married and i’m NOT going to be marrying someone that’s going to treat me like that. he obviously needs to get his priorities straight. i thought he respected me & cared about how i felt . and what’s worse is that he tried to cover it up by changing his sc password n deleted all the pics & vids ig that he took at the strip club & waited to tell me after finding out. i’m not talking to him rn and i don’t think i will be for a while. can you ladies pls give me a little advice? sorry if this was so long or too much.