“Stopped trying”

So I’m getting fed up of constantly being given advice of “it’ll happen when you stop trying”. What does that even mean??

We decided to stop tracking OPKS and bbt a couple of cycles ago and just continue baby dancing every other day throughout the entire month. I’m not stressing over it as I know it will happen when the time is right but it’s really bothering me, what does “stopped trying” even mean?? Are we expected to just stop baby dancing too because somehow I don’t think that would work 🤣