Postpartum depression/struggling??

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Im a FTM and Ive been really struggling with my newborn, more so recently. My baby is 3 and a half weeks old and all i seem to do is get stressed and overwhelmed whenever he cries to the point that im crying with him. I feel absolutely awful but i don't really feel like im attached to him, while i wouldn't do anything to hurt him or let anyone else hurt him, i don't look at him and feel the overwhelming love that everyone says i should/would feel. I feel very alone in all this and i find myself taking on everything as my partner is the one going out to work and he's also feeling pretty overwhelmed (FTD) and hasn't been very well recently so i tried to keep the baby quiet and happy while he slept and got better. 
I've got a history of poor mental health (depression, BPD, anxiety and eating disorder) and have been hospitalised in the past because of it so im also hesitant to open up about how im truly feeling in case it results in another admission. Im unsure if what im experiencing is postpartum depression or whether I'm just being over emotional. I raised my brother when i was younger so I've had experience of newborns and babies before so I had an idea of what to expect however i just feel completely lost and almost find myself panicking about the fact that i can't get out of this situation if i need to (which sounds absolutely Awful!)
Has anyone got any advice on how to cope better while also making sure I'm there for my partner?

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Definitely reach out to your OB or mental health professional if you have one. Having a history of mental health issues makes you more likely to have PPD, but you shouldn’t suffer in silence, it doesn’t do you, your baby or your partner any good. Getting treated sooner is better than waiting, and just because you have been hospitalized in the past does not mean you necessarily will be this time, especially if you get treated early. The stress of being a new mom and the hormonal fluctuations your body goes through after growing and birthing a whole human are intense. You are not alone, many women suffer with these feelings after birth, but you are already doing the right thing reaching out on here. Talk to your partner about how you are feeling, as much as we want them to be they aren’t mind readers and don’t know if we don’t tell them. Do you have other family members or friends to talk to or help you with the baby as well? Please feel free to continue to ask for help on here in addition to talking to your doctor, and don’t feel ashamed for feeling this way.

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I had PPD and PPA all of us moms go through this. This is totally normally it’s LIFE changing so your going through all the emotions and then on top of that handling ( what’s sounds like ) a NEWBORN all by yourself. Get help family, friends! Any little bit counts talk to your partner tell him how your feeling, get a nanny! Once my newborn hit 1 month I snapped at my husband and told him I NEED help! I’m a very independent women so you could imagine but now I realized getting a helping hand makes a WORLD of a difference. I too cried with my newborn when I fed, rocked, played with him and he would still cry but that all babies ( you’ll realist that soon ) send you a BIG hug.

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Thank you everyone for your kind words.
Unfortunately i don't have any family near me, including my partners family, as we live 170 miles away from them 😫
My partner messaged me last night while he was at work saying he realises he's not been helping me enough and he's going to try harder so hopefully that will help a little! He's also making steps to improve his mood - looking for a new job with better hours, trying to do more things together such as going for walks etc.🤞🏻

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Hang in there!!! U got this!!!! Go put that baby down safely…. Take a hot shower! Breathe!!!!!!!

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If u lived close to me I’d be over to help! I understand! This will pass soon I promise

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Hey dear , you’re doing great ❤️ Hang in there … 
I struggled so much, esp the first three months. Be kind to yourself and give yourself lots of grace. Right now , your partner should be there for you - not the other way around. You need lots of support. 
Treat yourself if you can … even if it’s just indulge a craving , or go out alone for an hour. 
Remember it will pass. Until then, rest as much as you can, snuggle you baby and try to do bonding activities (bath together , skin to skin, contact nap, etc. ) 
And try to keep your thoughts positive. It’s so easy to spiral and starting thinking negatively and feel trapped … that will just lead to more negative feelings. 🥺 try to embrace motherhood best you can in this difficult stage. ❤️❤️

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It gets better by week 10 u adjust to all this new stuff

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