anal?

Question

okay guys. has anyone done anal? need advice. LOL 
i am seeing a new guy. (i was with my ex boyfriend for 3 years and we have daughter! our sex was boring, “vanilla” as they call it lol) anywho, he wants to try anal! he has put his fingers in my butt, which was fine. painless, felt good. but i am scared to death to actually do anal. i feel like im going to bleed 😩 he is VERY large & it scares me. i know he will be gentle, as he’s always been gentle. and he listens to everything i say. he knows what i’m comfortable with & what i’m not. so he hasn’t pressed the issue. i want to try anal but just need to know what to expect! lol thank you in advance.

Answer

I know that you say you’re terrified, but you need to realize that there are millions of nerve endings back there and you have to think of your anus like a fist, the tighter you squeeze your hand, the harder it is to get your finger in there so the more you brace yourself and tense up and freak out, the worse it’s going to be for you if you relax, you are well lubricated, it’s a lot easier to get your finger inside your hand right, rather than clenching your fist. Lubrication is your best friend, relaxing is another big one, not anticipating are bracing yourself or anything like that, taking it slow, inching your way in, never mix anus to vagina, that’s an infection waiting to happen because there’s lots of bacteria in your anus. Perhaps maybe starting with butt plugs, and working your way up, also know that clitoral stimulation “to take your mind off of things,” Or a vibrator on your clitoris, as for prep, some people don’t eat or make sure they empty their bowels completely, use wet ones or clean themselves well, you may experience diarrhea, you may experience constipation it all depends on you, I would definitely lay down some towels just in case shit does come out, the hole is obviously meant for it to come out of it, and hopefully he doesn’t freak out if shit does come out. I would use a condom just in case, you do have to be careful, obviously there are side effects that can happen, from anal fissures or tearing, hemorrhoids, or irritating hemorrhoids you have internally, obviously shit happening, it’s not for everyone, but again don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with 100%, if you feel guilted into it, that’s not fair. There’s literally tons of things that you can do aside from anal sex, fulfilling each other’s fantasies, role-play, and dressing up, accents, pain and pleasure, heat and cold, edible sex, just no food down there on you that’s an infection waiting to happen, I don’t know how far into the S&M realm you want me to go. Obviously there’s a whole underground world that most people aren’t even aware of, sex dungeons, swingers clubs, orgies, I can go on and on. I don’t know how S&M you want to go, from rated G side to right is a little scary side. I was a dominatrix years ago so I definitely can share some interesting experiences that I’ve dealt with myself, I also stripped when I was very young, there isn’t much I haven’t done. Not much shocks me, I can make you laugh at all kinds of stories, but again don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with that is the main thing, have a Kill button word, I SafeWord if you will, that even if it sounds like you’re enjoying yourself or it sounds like you’re not serious or it sounds like you know laughing and crying can sound similar, have a SafeWord and just take it slow that is my best advice to you.￼

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