I need advice. I can’t stand my boyfriend’s son.

Hi mamas… I need advice badly.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have a 2 year old daughter together and he has a 12 year old son from a previous relationship who is just awful…

He’s extremely defiant, talks back, is rude, encourages bad behavior with my daughter, doesn’t respect anyone, and he’s pretty destructive. Sometimes he acts like a 4 year old with the tantrums. My boyfriend has him right now because of their custody arrangement so we have him during school breaks. My boyfriend just got a new job and he used to work from home so I always had his help.

I also work from home full time but now have to watch his son every day and it’s been a week and I’m dying. He’s so bad and I feel so guilty saying this but I think I hate him. I’ve never met a kid like him and he only gets worse the older he gets. I told my boyfriend I don’t know how I’m going to watch him every day this summer while I work and he basically told me to deal with it. I understand my boyfriend’s hands are tied but he has tried nothing to help me. I asked my boyfriend’s family if they can help and they said “it’s a shame you can’t handle him because he’s not yours”. The son even broke off his door the other day while throwing a tantrum because I took his tablet away when he wouldn’t clean his room.

I don’t know what to do. It’s changing the entire dynamic of our household and I don’t know how to handle it…

* he also JUST told me if I can’t watch him, we’re not a family and this relationship is over

Please give me advice 🥺