How to deal with your husband being not attracted to you??

Question

I was chatting with my hubby, asking why our sexual activity has decreased so much since we got our home, he was kinda evasive saying he just doesn't want it as much anymore. 
I really needed answers & we were talking calmly so i asked if a) there's a problem, b) he doesn't feel attracted to me anymore c) he's taking the steam off somewhere else
He responded he didn't want to hurt me & that it didn't affected how much he loves me, i asked if that meant that answer is b) & he confirmed... he still reassured me a couple times that it doesn't matter cause he still loves me deeply, but i think of you are not attracted then you should just be friends with that person, not in a relationship. Therefore, i kinda feel it'd be better to end the marriage. 
Honestly i thought it would hurt me but i feel just empty, i will just avoid sexual activity with him now & keep myself covered in front of him at all times. What would you guys do??

Accepted Answer

I'd leave honestly. I would feel deeply uncomfortable if my husband didn't find me attractive. I've been with my husband for 13 years & he's seen many sides of me. Young & skinny, pregnant, chubby af, bad/messy hair, no makeup, fit again, dolled up etc. He's still attracted to me. He's never made me feel otherwise. If he did I wouldnt be able to stay. 😕 I'm not saying it's what you should do though.

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If my husband told me that he was no longer attracted to me, I would probably leave. That doesn’t sound like a recipe for a long, fulfilling marriage.
Now on another note, you’ve posted this same question across numerous groups. That’s considered spam and is against the app rules. Also, it’s kind of annoying. I’d suggest deleting all of the extra posts.

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People love their partners and leave everyday . Love will never be enough. Go where you're celebrated honey don't ever let anyone make you feel less of the beautiful woman you are

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I would get to the root cause before I throw the marriage away. Is it something you can change about yourself ? If yes, I’d do that first

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I couldn’t stay in a marriage where I didn’t feel desired. How do you feel about yourself? Are you comfortable with your body and looks? I know I’ve lost 80 pounds after having our third child and feel so much better. Working out and eating right is my self care. 
I’d honestly put a deadline in my head. If things don’t change by the new year, I’d consider ending my marriage.

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I could love plenty of people and never want to be with them intimately…
When it comes to a marriage love alone just isn’t enough. Also I’m sorry to say but when you have love with a husband and a wife  that includes being attracted to them always, for better or worse.

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I would leave as well

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You deal with it by moving on. As others have said, decide on a deadline. Set up a safe exit for yourself. 
Process your feelings for him; sort out in your mind how much attraction you feel for him. You may find that you have lost attraction too. This is normal in relationships. It's a natural uncoupling.

How to deal with your husband being not attracted to you??

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