Am i a bad girlfriend?

Okay so for 1 me and my boyfriend have been together almost 2 years here are things that’s happening as to why we aren’t talking. I need to hear someone from the outside to see if it’s me. I don’t want to be horrible to anyone

1st he likes to smoke I asked him could he please not have it around me bc it’s not really something I do, he also talks about other things like shrooms but i don’t like drugs so i just ask could we not speak on those things. he really doesn’t get it and keeps bringing it up and i keep telling him it’s making me uncomfortable but he tells me he should be able to speak about anything with his gf and that i’m trying to change him bc i don’t want to talk about it

another thing is .. stupid as it is Videos. He likes to send me these long tiktoks from people who talk about their life experiences. For example, “the best revenge is silence” it’s pretty corny to me and I just don’t care for them as much I told him i didn’t care for them as much and I respond to them but he says i don’t give the response he expected…. and that i’m a weirdo for not liking those type of videos and that i should respond better

another thing is with playing music in the car. he likes to play loudly, i let him do it for a while but i’m just a calm person and it just is too loud for me and then when he play songs he told me he expects me to bop my head or acknowledge the song when I just want to talk to him when we drive

am i just a bad gf , should i just… idkkk