Am I over reacting?

Question

I’m currently four weeks postpartum and I caught my partner purchasing things off of OF…. And during my entire pregnancy you don’t want to be intimate with me and he heaven purchasing pornographic content since January of this year…. Should I let it go? I
 So heartbroken… I already had self esteem issues because if being pregnant and not fitting into clothes and now my PP Body 🥺 isn’t anything like the girls he’s been watching…

Answer

i would not let it go and that would not be okay with me. i’d also be heartbroken too. you guys should have a talk about your boundaries in your relationship. he should be focusing on you and the baby not paying for nudes online smfh i hate what the world has become and how a lot of people normalize this behavior 😩 i’m sorry girl. i hope when you tell him he will realize he is hurting you and stop doing shit like that. otherwise... fuck him lol

Answer

He's denied you intimacy and is purchasing OF? To me that's cheating. Im not one of those women who's against my spouse having his own private time with himself. But this is where the line is crossed. He ruined a beautiful time of your life. Pregnancy is beautiful. I'm sorry he made you feel less. You're not overreacting. I couldn't be in a relationship with a man who's turned off by my pregnant body.

Answer

It depends on the conversations and boundaries you two have talked about and set in your relationship. 
Was OF “allowed” before the pregnancy? Because if it was and no other conversation has been had since, then him being on OF shouldn’t be an issue. The issue would just be him not being intimate with you and you feeling a bit insecure because you’re unnecessarily comparing yourself to other women. 
Was it not “allowed” from the beginning? I would be livid. Because then it’s trust and respect that he’s lost and boundaries he’s crossed. Along with still having the issue of him not being intimate and feeling insecure. 
Either way, it seems like a conversation around how you’re feeling and what you need should take place. Just like intimacy matters before pregnancy, it matters during and after and that needs to be clear.

Am I over reacting?

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