Does my husband find me unattractive

My husband and I have been married 2 and a half years but together like 6. For the last 2 years whenever we have sex he will only take off the bare minimum of my clothing so like leaves me top half on etc. He also doesn’t really spend any time getting me ready first or making sure I finish too etc he will only finger me the tiniest bit then he goes straight in, I will start enjoying it and he says he’s about to finish so I say can you slow down a bit then or go back to fingers so I have a bit longer and when I say that he will speed up and smash me so hard that it actually hurts and I have said ouch can you stop before but he won’t stop till he finishes. When he cums he won’t then try finish me he gets up goes the the bathroom to clean up and then rolls over when he gets back in bed to play on his phone leaving me lying there feeling so insecure and used. He also doesn’t take no for an answer like there have been so many times I have said no multiple times to sex and moves away and he will just slide my underwear to the side and put himself in and finish while I lie there on my side tears rolling down my face with him grunting into my back. This is pretty much what it is always like and he is the only guy I have ever been with so kinda just wanting to know is this normal and do you think he finds me unattractive if he’s leaving my clothes on and trying to finish really fast. Thanks ladies 💕