Birth

I know this is a simple question to answer but just need to rant. We’re having a home birth and my husband invited his best friends mom to come (they’ve been best friends for 15 years). Never asked me, just invited her. One reason why I’m having a home birth is to limit people around me during labor. I told him months ago when he told me that she was coming that I didn’t want anyone else here. I’ve met her twice over the last 8 years and she hasn’t talked to me once the whole pregnancy but calls him everyday to check on me and our other kids ,which I do appreciate. My husband hadn’t even talked to her or seen her in 5 years. We saw her over Christmas and now he wants her at our birth. He says she’s like a mom to him but yet she’s barely been in his life the last 11 years so I just don’t get it (he’s seen her 5 times for a few hours) . But he said months ago he understood why I didn’t want anyone here. but now a month before we’re due he says she can’t wait to be here for the birth and that he’ll let her know once labor starts so she can drive here.Again no one asked me. He was upset the first time I told him no, and gave me the cold shoulder for days about it. Now I’m worried about telling him again, she does live 6 hours away so I’m thinking she might not get here in time anyway? But also I don’t want anyone around for the first 6 weeks anyway while we settle into being a family of 7 and adjusting to everything. I know she’s excited to be there and loves our kids but to have someone I have no relationship with at all attend our birth makes me so uncomfortable. She’s the only person like family my husband has as all his family has passed away so I understand why he wants her here. Just don’t know what to do between how we both feel. And I don’t want be uncomfortable in my own home during labor and post partum (she says she’s staying with us for a week). Just trying to figure out how to address this without hurting him or her feelings and respecting my wishes. 😭😭😭