help me figure out my sexuality

okay so im bi, im attracted to all genders but i prefer women/people who are more feminine in nature. however, i struggle with forming connections. most of the time, i experience no physical attraction to people i see throughout my day, particularly men. another thing is, i don’t really care a ton whether or not im in a relationship, unless i’ve already decided that i like someone and they’re the only reason i want to be in a relationship. i only catch feelings for people im strongly attracted to (which is kinda rare just based on looks) or i like their mannerisms or something else about them. i feel like i don’t experience attraction the way other people do, and i was wondering if im somewhere on the aromantic/asexual spectrum but idk because i don’t necessarily require a connection with people first like demi do and im not completely aro/ace. please give me some ideas cause it’s causing confusion and stress in my life because for the life of me i can’t figure it out

edit*** i can’t experience romantic or sexual attraction for someone at all unless they’re someone i’m strongly attracted to because dating or being intimate with someone i don’t feel strongly attracted to in some kind of way feels icky (or maybe that’s normal) even though i’ve tried to give people a chance

idk man i really don’t know how to explain this