Am I a narcissist?

I am married. I have a 5 year old daughter and a 4 year old son. I am a SAHM and although I love it I am also extremely overwhelmed and depressed. When I express my feelings of overwhelm and need for help my husband just tells me I am a narcissist, that I am only thinking of myself and that it’s not fair for him to work all day and then come home and have to do “my job” too. No, I don’t make him come home to a dirty house, no food, no sex, etc. but I do ask him to change the trash or walk the dog. He doesn’t cook, do laundry/dishes, I’ve learned to not expect or ask him to do anything. It’s been this way since my kids were newborns. He’s the breadwinner, I’m the homemaker. He treats me as a maid, cook, janitor, bus driver and not as a wife. He says I’m a narcissist because when he shows affection to our kids and when I ask for his affection as well that I’m just jealous of them. Tbh, I am in a way, seeing he is capable of emotions towards our kids but refuses to show them to me fucking hurts. Am I a narcissist for being jealous?