Input please?

I’m having issues surrounding my baby and wanted tips on where to compromise or where to put my foot down. My boyfriend is nigerian so my daughter has a regular first name that we both agreed on but he picked her middle name which is nigerian and she’ll have his last name, I told him I wanted her to have two middle names so I can include me within her name and he automatically shut me down but I still said I was adding it. Today his mom asked him what her name was and he told her then she says “Her African name needs to come first” and he tells her “Well y’all can call her that” & when he told me I decided to not address it right then and there but clearly disagreed. I then tell him about a conversation I had with his sisters and how she said her mom wanted to be in the delivery room and i said no & then she says well atleast outside of the door and i shut that down too, I tell him about the conversation later on and he’s like “yeah she doesn’t have to be in the room but of course she’ll come after” and I told him absolutely not, maybe the next day but I don’t want anybody there the same day I give birth just because mentally taking it all in would just be a lot for me and now he’s upset. I don’t have a relationship at all with his mom and we’ve been together for almost 5 years and she practically hates me so I just don’t want to feel awkward in my own hospital room either like my own mom and none of my family will be coming to the hospital. Am I being unreasonable??