Mindset change needed- Don't like my MIL and FIL

So, I'm living abroad, away from my family. The only "close' family is my mother in law.

I'm a first time mom, my baby is almost 5 months.

Long story short, I really don't like my mother in law, nor father in law and his wife. They didn't do anything bad to me, to hurt me on purpose or so, but I just can't stand their small talks, all-time suggestions, childish behavior towards us sometimes, or their behavior when it comes to the baby. Too much pride and conversations about themselves along the way.

I can't stand watching them touch my baby. This is probably not normal...

Their presence makes me nervous and before they come to visit us, I'm looking forward to their leaving.

I know this is wrong. I should love them and feel relaxed and happy...but I just can't stand their actions towards my child like it's theirs, or moments when they dare to "plan" my life. ( For ex." ohhhH you can do the cleaning, I can watch the baby - MIL. Btw - she never helped us with cleaning, cooking or anything during postpartum when it was the hardest for us, I had to call my mom).

Help me how to change my mindset, how to love and accept these people...

P.S. My husband doesn't have a good relationship with them. They are divorced long time ago, and most of the conversations with them leads to fights. They have been focused on themselves entire life, like finding partners, and now since we are parents, they want to get too involved with their grandchild.

Which... I really don't like it. ..and it's wrong I guess.