So I have these feelings that won't go away, I have a therapist and I go once a week. My husband puts himself before me and our dogs. It always is what makes him happy first and I'm in the passenger seat. Like an example, we went on vacation for 4 days. On the last day our check out of our Airbnb was 11 a.m we woke up at 9 a.m. we wanted to leave by 11 due to driving home (10 hr drive) well my husband woke up at 10 said okay I'm going to shower, you can pack up the dogs cage and their bag and can you take out the trash? I said I can but it would be nice for some help. He turned away and got himself ready. He has his own hygiene bag/tote. I packed up my stuff and left the suit case out for him to pack up his dirty clothes and bag. Well once everything was in the car I walked through the Airbnb and made sure we did what we were supposed to do for checkout. Last night my husband asked, did you move my hygiene bag? I said no (we have been home from vacation for a week) I said did you pack it after you showered? He said I thought I did, but you walked through the Airbnb if you saw it why didn't you grab it?! I said I didn't see anything left behind when I walked through. You could have set it somewhere else that I didn't see. And he said wow that's great.. everything was in there and now I gotta buy replacements for everything. I felt bad but at the same time ... I'm not his mom...I don't want to pick up after him. I'm his wife, who he should love and respect but I feel like his mom all the danm time. Cleaning for him. Giving him money. Taking care of his mental health days vs mine. I'm so over it.... So so over it and ready for divorce...