Would you be ok if your a SAHM & bf goes out??

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If you are a SAHM and your boyfriend did worked 2 jobs and paid the bills would you be ok with him going out with his friends all the time and making plans with you then saying take me with my friend instead . My boyfriend has been going out since I’ve been pregnant and leave me at home sometimes not coming home till the next day and he think it’s ok that he does nothing wrong. Our daughter is going to be 4 years old and he hasn’t stopped . Last weekend he was out 2 nights and slept for 2 days Thursday night he went to his coworkers house for a Consultation (he tattoos) he left around 8pm and didn’t come home till 9am the next morning. Slept all day Friday, Saturday night came & he was drinking with our neighbor I fell asleep . So I woke up at 6am he was showering and I asked him if he left and said no I checked my app on my phone to see if my car left and he lied to me saying he didn’t leave. He came back around 5:30am. And he went out last night after we had plans to go eat with our daughter when he gets home and he says ima go with my friend to the bar. So I’m just tired of this he thinks he’s not doing anything wrong. He told me because he works hard for us that he can do what he wants. 
Would you put up with this?

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Being a stay at home mom is irrelevant. He is acting a fool. I am fine with my husband having a social life and seeing friends, but when it interferes with family life, that is not OK. He's way out of line.

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You sure he’s not fooling around…?

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How does he work two jobs and still party like that and sleep for days at a time? And no, I would not be ok with that at all!

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He's behaving like he's single with no responsibility. Don't put up with it.

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That is completely unacceptable. There are nights my boyfriend goes out with friends, but it’s not every week, let alone multiple times a week. We have a child and he is expected to be home every night to help care for our child and to create a stable household for our daughter, aside from an outing every now and then. I agree with someone else that it sounds like he may be cheating. Or he’s just immature and is prioritizing his friends over his family which is not okay at all. Whether you’re a stay at home mom or not, that’s not the way a family with two adults should operate. He needs to be home and an active member of the family which is more than just paying bills.

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Simply put, no I would not put up with this at all! It's irresponsible, inconsiderate and his priorities are not on his child and his partner which should always be a priority!! He is being selfish!

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I wouldn’t put up with it. No. I’d be going to my moms house, or just leaving in general. What am I married for? Just to have your kids and stay home and take care of them? Did you forget all about me? Hell no

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It’s absurd behavior from anyone who has a child. It has nothing to do with whether you stay home or not. No, I wouldn’t put up with it. I would rather be single than wait around for some loser.

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Why are you putting up with this?

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This is not normal behavior, this would not fly with me. And he is trying to gaslight and manipulate you. Please set a good example for your daughter and get out of this relationship. Seriously.

Would you be ok if your a SAHM & bf goes out??

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