Options for someone in debt

Hey just wondering if anyone can give me any advice on options out there for people in extreme debt who are actively looking for buy a house.

Okay so I’m literally drowning in debt. I have a personal loan with my bank of $30,000, a small loan of $4500, a payday loan of $800 and then 2 maxed out credit cards of $5000 and $1000. I’m literally working to pay off loans which is leaving me no money for my bills, mortgage, daycare fees, groceries etc. if I’d have known how horrible loans were before getting stuck in them all then I would have just tried harder to get my debt down on my own. But I didn’t and now I feel stuck. The other issue I am having is our little family has outgrown our home. We’re a family of 4 in a 2 bedroom. Our daughter is in our room but she’s 3 and only a couple years away from school so she definitely needs her own room soon. I have family members willing to gift us a down payment and is actively trying to help us find a place. But I don’t want to tell this family member that I am so much in debt as she isn’t understanding and will make me feel worse and add stress that I really don’t need.

Any tips?