I CANNOT BELIEVE my mother in law

She is always questioning my parenting! Then she wonders why I use her as a very last resort when I need someone to watch my kids(which isn't often I'm a stay at home mom).And says all the time I'm the reason she "never" gets to see her grandkids!??

This time she has refused to cut up grapes!!! I think this is a very big deal! Like it's not even up for debate I'm their mother if I say yes they can have grapes AS LONG AS THEY ARE CUT CORRECTLY then that's what you do! Especially after I tell you how to cut them up! I've bought her a special grape cutter for her house and she said it was just much of a hassle!!! So of course I'm like okay well if you don't wanna use the grape cutter you can do it by hand, that take a little longer but it still does the job! I also showed her pictures of the correct way! And she goes "I NEVER cut grapes for my kids and their just fine and I have twins"

And I say "okay that's fine I would rather be safe than sorry so we GOING TO be cutting grapes and hot dogs"

And she says as she rolls her eyes "oh that's so silly, when their at my house when I watch them we've never had any issues we're gonna keep doing it the way we did it with our boys"

My boys are 4 & 1 they need both grapes and hot dogs cut up! Along with other food! Small children need thing cut to avoid choking hazards!!!