Hello all I started Christian marriage counseling with my wife we are several months deep. Over the weekend I told my wife we should go out to eat even though we were financially struggling and she said we should wait and I complimented her on her decision. Yesterday my wife told me she was going to dinner with one of her female coworkers from work and she was going to have to miss the next session. I didn’t agree with this because there are other hours in the day she can go so she can still make our meeting to work on our marriage. She told me why did I never say anything about missing the other meetings when she picked up a shift or when we traveled. As far as the meetings go for me I’ve always been able to attend the meetings even when I had two jobs. Why did she flip the issue back on me when I’ve always been present ? The other thing is the other day I was cleaning the bathroom downstairs before she left for work and she asked me why was I cleaning and I told her it’s because it’s dirty. She said well she used it last night and it wasn’t dirty and she cleaned it last week. I said ok I understand but it’s got the ring of dirt where the water sits and just continued to go back and forth with me. Why would I sit and waste my time cleaning the bathroom when they are other things I could be doing ? Now she’s upset because I wanted to wait to have a conversation with a 3rd party instead of discussing it with her. I didn’t want her to cut me off while talking amongst other things and still all this happened.

Is she gaslighting me ?