Are they jealous over their dad or is it racism???😳😳😳😳

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Hi you guys. I have a problem I need help solving. I've been with my boyfriend for over 7 years. Almost 8. He's from central America and so is his daughters ages: 23, 20, 18. I've from USA and African American. I've never met my man's daughters face to face or over the phone because they've never liked me. From the first moment that they found out about me they've tortured me. They said nasty things over social media about me his oldest daughter disrespected me right after I sent her a message about her dad's phone was having trouble so if she wanted to reach out to him use my number. She went off on me something I didn't see coming. For years they've known about me but never accepted me. I asked my man why he says that they are jealous that I'm with him and will never accept me as long as we're together because they wanted their parents back together. Fast forward 4 years later... Today, I just got on social media and saw that their mother got married to a man! He is also central American but they never said anything nasty about him. In fact they treat him with love and respect! I'm trying to understand what's their problem with me? Why is it that they were able to accept this man into their life whom their mother MARRIED but a girlfriend of their dad they couldn't accept from day #1? I never disrespected his daughters or their mother at all.  I tried to talk to them a few times and they kept disrespecting me and at the time their mother wasn't helping the situation at all so that also played a part in it  the parents were already separated for more than 14 years before I came along so it wasn't like I slept with her man or something. I never done anything to give them a reason to hate me so why am I hated by them? Is it jealousy? Or could it be racism?

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I think it's the fact that dad moved so far away from them & they probably felt kinda replaced. I know its hard but I wouldn't entertain any of there drama they should come around and if they don't it's their loss I'm sure your great ❤️

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Dad moved on first, and they lost their relationship with their Dad eg they live with her and now hardly see him, so they hate you for that and representing him moving on and that their parents wont get back together (a lot of kids' hope with separation), even though it isnt your fault. Step dad is simply integrated into their already existent routine, family etc.

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Latinos do tend to be racist against Black folks but that doesn’t mean that’s what this is. Part of it could be but I think you being with their dad before mom moved on is likely it. You also don’t know what mom was feeding into their minds when she first learned about you. She could have been so hurt that she told them all types of things and them even seeing their mom hurt by your relationship, turned them against you. It’s very typical. 
Just keep rolling with them punches and focus on your relationship with your man. They may or may not come around. Let them be.

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Dad moved on first. At that time maybe they hoped they would get back together. This isn’t uncommon. Not fair to you but I don’t think this is a race thing

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Them aint kids they grown....Who cares if they like you or not. Your man loves you...

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My dad dated horrible people before his current girlfriend so we’ve just stop trusting his judgement and accepting anyone

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My mom’s best friend has a similar situation. They ended up eloping. His daughter(s) (I don’t remember how many he has) wants nothing to do with her. She is one of the sweetest ladies and has two grown sons of her own. I used to babysit her kids. They eloped because of his daughter(s)’s behavior.

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Not racism.

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It’s a possibility…are you and their father the same age or is there a big age difference? That could also cause issues, especially if you’re close to their ages.  I’ve seen that happen a lot.

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To everyone asking my age: my age isn't the issue here. I've spoken to 3 women that he's dated over the years and they were older same age and a year younger than myself and from what his siblings told me, his daughters acted the same way with them as far as not accepting them into their lives. But never did they call out their skin color. One night when his middle daughter was making a comment about me she made multiple references of my skin color and race. I'm not delusional ladies. Lol and I understand that this can be s little confusing for some of you the reason that I know that they said this is because sometimes when they would text something it would be out of nowhere and he'd be asleep phone beeps more than twice and I look over to see screenshots of my photos with negative words like ugly black monkey woman and things of that sort. Since I've posted I did realize that the mother was behind this though. She was holding on to him and jealous that he did move on. That isn't my fault has nothing to do with me but I was persecuted because their sister found me first online through him contacting her through my page, and she gave all of my information to his children's mother. The woman contacted me, she never acted as if there was a problem she was nice but once she told her daughters about me they sent me all kinds of negative things that was so unexpected. Since I've posted this, I've decided not to worry about how they feel about me. The reason that I was so irritated with how they felt about me is because I wanted a relationship with each of them. I'm no longer concerning myself with any of that. If they accept me into their lives that's great if not so be it.

Are they jealous over their dad or is it racism???😳😳😳😳

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