We started no diapers this past weekend.

Day 1 was terrible, we only had 2 successful pees. Day 2 was alot better with 50% success rate. Day 3 was daycare and he did amazing with only one accident. That night he struggled some but still had a few pees in the potty. Day 4 was terrible at home, would not sit on the potty to go first thing in the morning. He did well at daycare with only 1 accident. That night tho the power struggle was intense. Absolutely refuses, would hit bite or throw toys at me if I even mentioned the potty.

I felt so defeated and frustrated that I just ended up sending him to daycare in a pull-up this morning. They seemed a little disappointed that I went back to pull-ups. We did no diapers again tonight and was able to get him to at least sit on the potty twice. We had zero successes. I feel like we're back to day 1.

Honestly I'm just at a loss at what I should do next. I know there's two types of people when it comes to potty training.. the people who wait until the kid makes the decision or those who decide it's time to take the diapers away and just force the kids into it. Do I keep pushing forward or am I just wasting my time trying to force an unwilling toddler to do something ?? We've done the whole reward thing but it doesn't work. And for all the people that need to state well you waited too long now and it's so much harder with an older kid.. yeah I know it's not like I haven't tried potty training when he was younger. He refused then and refusing now. I can't help feel the pressure when most of my mom group friends having younger kids who are out of diapers. It's hard not to feel like I'm doing something wrong.

Anyways sorry for my rant. I honestly just don't know where to go from here. The fear of having a 4 year old that isnt potty trained scares the hell out me. Trying not to let my emotions get in the way but I'm sure my son feels my anexity so I'm sure it's not helping the situation.