Hello any step moms out there that are baptized ????

First foremost thank u for stopping and reading sorry so long!

How to deal with being a step mom a Jehovah witness being married to non believer who does holidays

I was baptized at 18 became inactive in my mid 20s married a man who has a kid who Is 3 at this time been in his life since he was 1y3m.

My husband before we wed told me he never dated the mother of his little boy things just happened she got prego and he’s here he’s been in his life since day one she is younger then us and short story he was very active in kids life since day one when we got together the baby was with us always she didn’t mind but then when she found out we was getting married she became bitter and didn’t let him see his boy I helped gain joint custody of his little boy.

I been nothing but supportive and there and assisted 100 💯 on co parenting I was the co parent I talk to her for him till they build that communication back up for sake of baby id do anything to see that baby/ smile 😊 even if I’m uncomfortable I know all that comes with it including being around the baby’s mom. I’ve attended the baby’s doctors school events everything.

So recently now since there is joint things been alittle friendly I’m trying not to ask advice from just anyone and rather a biblical view and understand on this because I recently started going back to my meetings and trying to become closer to jehovah now growing up regardless of me being active I don’t do holidays now my husband on the other hand decided randomly he wants to do holidays for his little boy and HW coming up….

My hubby is great at talking to me bout plans and events or anything and I’m always ok because of the baby becomes first.

But this the thing

He randomly asks his BM if she wants to join him and his sister to do trick or treating she wasn’t 100 percent if she was or not. Can’t lie it hurt hearing him ask her before telling me he was inviting her to an event that I’m not attendin.

I said to him hey it’s cool u guys been co parenting what she say she attending your guys event I didn’t know u was inviting her he’s like idk and it doesn’t matter its his mother if u had ur baby u would want to be there during holidays too …. Then called me fake and said he hates me.! Makes me upset cuz I been nothing again but supportive he not even understanding me.

Like 😳 ummm I never had a problem with hit even if it was last minute him not even letting me know anything shouldn’t be the reason to disrespect his wife and mother of his second child.

Now here is where I’m afraid it took me 32 years to understand Jehovahs way especially when it comes time to kids I never had this issue but now since I married a non believer I’m scared. On how to handle things. Do I have to attend events is it appropriate or would u or do you allow your husband go with his bm and son out on holidays

🤦🏼‍♀️ ummm 2023 so cool with co parenting but when can they have some chill.!