Just looking for opinions and advice, my bf and I have been together 4 and a half years and currently live separately in our own apartments. We tried living together 2 or 3 years ago, I moved in with him at his place and it was a quick decision. Didn’t really talk a lot about it at the time and it eventually just wasn’t working out, it put a lot of strain on our relationship. I moved back out and got my own place because I felt like we just weren’t ready to live together at that point in our relationship. Well now he is getting an actual house next month and has been asking me to move in with him again. I haven’t told him no, I just told him I would think about it IF we talked over it properly this time. That’s a big decision to make and should take time discussing, I learned that from last time we tried living together. I told him that and he basically just keeps getting upset or getting his feelings hurt and shuts the topic down because I won’t give him an automatic yes. He basically acts like me wanting to take time and talk about it this go around is me softly telling him no, and he keeps trying to pressure me into deciding. He told me he wanted to put me on the lease already and I told him no because even if I do move in, it will be after the lease at my apartment is up which is in 4 months. That would give us 4 months to talk about it and fully decide on how we can do better this time plus I don’t want to go through the hassle and fees of breaking my lease since it’s already almost over anyways. I told him to leave me off the lease for now and he can just add me to it when I move and he told me no he doesn’t want to do that because it will just be a “hassle” to add me on later and that if I don’t agree to be on the lease when he signs it that he will never put me on it. It’s just becoming frustrating because he’s kind of a “one way or no way” person and is acting like this is a decision I can make over night. I would like to live with him again I just don’t want it to be a repeat of how last time went and I feel like he’s not understanding that or why I want to take so long discussing everything. Does anyone have any advice on how to go about this or what I should do?