Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2 years and we’ve had a child together that unfortunately passed away due to a heart condition this past July. He was previously married and has 2 girls. They have been divorced for a solid 7 years but his mother constantly talks shit about the ex wife but still invites her to stay at her house to “spend time with the girls” but complains each time she’s there. My man’s brother is getting married and the mil and her other son had a shitty relationship but now she wants to be mom of the year now that the wedding is coming up and with this the ex wife use to be a cosmetologist and she keeps mentioning how she wants the ex wife to do her hair for the wedding but yet during this phone call she forgot my name. I feel somewhat uncomfortable about the entire situation and my man hasn’t done anything sketchy and has spoken to his mom about how it’s odd that she acts this way with the ex wife. She wanted some of my sons ashes to make into a ring after I mentioned I wanted to do that for myself as a keepsake and I originally agreed but everything was fresh and now I feel like I owe her absolutely nothing and there’s no reason I should let her have any part of my son even though he’s deceased. Am I overreacting about the entire situation as a whole? You still want the ex wife involved that you talk shit about but you can’t even remember my name? It just doesn’t sit right with me.