Okay, so I was a favourite of my grandmothers, very blatantly too. My grandad tried to compensate for my brother, but he noticed, and when I was younger and more naive I did tease him about it. We’re older now and my brother and I are fine. In my teen years I became a firm favourite of my mums, obviously too. I was a little more pliant in those years.

So fast forward to today I have 3 children, all under 3. When I was pregnant with number two my mum made it clear she wouldn’t feel the same way about my daughter as she would my already born son. When I had my third he was born quite sick and I needed help from her in the form of her caring for my children while I was in hospital with my 3rd. She developed quite a relationship with my daughter through this so I thought favouritism wouldn’t be an issue.

Fast forward 8 months and it is rife. She came over last weekend and scooped my oldest boy up whilst ignoring my daughter who was excitedly tugging at her legs to be included. My mum continued to ignore her and my daughter looked crushed. So I called my mum out on it and she tells me- you know oldest is my favourite, he always cuddles me, what do you want me to do?

This actually has turned into a whole issue, I’m telling her she can’t come in and make my daughter feel like this and her argument is that I was a favourite child so I can’t tell her who she can and cannot favour.

I’ve cancelled a weekend with her because this argument is still ongoing and now it’s turned nasty and I’m the bad guy for punishing her and my eldest?!?!

Opinions?

TIA