Hi all,

Just wanted to know if my approach in this situation was correct.

Been speaking to this guy under a month, great connection/chemistry, good conversations. No sexual relations just taking it slow really. I’m conversations he did complain about how much time and energy his work takes from him however my goal was to take my time to date without the pressure of being in a relationship. Two weeks ago he went to a lounge by himself to decompress and came to see me after, we chilled in his car and had conversations. He did tell me how busy he would be as he’s picked up another job however I guess I underestimated how busy he would be because two days after that he went silent..for two days but strangely would watch my stories.

It gets tiring in dating so I assumed typically f boy so I pulled back and deleted his number seeing that other guys pulled those tricks on me in the past. He reached out to me this week via text asked if I was okay etc, I politely raised the issues with the lack of consistency which he put down to feeling overwhelmed and stressed at work. He said he likes me however he also likes the money he’ll be getting from the project he’s picked up.

I didn’t argue or nag..I advised him to focus solely on his career seeing that he’s incapable for balancing communicating with me and working…he sounded confused by my response but later agreed with me. My thing is that there was no closure or anything he just said “your right, I see your point.” And haven’t heard from him since. But he still manages to watch my socials. I’m proud that I didn’t allow my emotions to shadow my behaviour because I really like him but I would like to know what this means.

Thanks x