Ok here's the lengthy story. I am about to go back to work and have to make some kind of arrangement or changes to my work schedule for my newborn. It makes the most sense for me and my husband to keep our current jobs which are both the same shift with no other options. My support circle is small so I have to seek daycare or a sitter. My family is kind of toxic, unreliable, or not interested. I've been referred a sitter who has great recommendations. I haven't seen her home yet or met her. We have scheduled that for this weekend. She sent me a friend request on Facebook and the first thing I see is and only fans account. Out of curiosity I click it and bam there she is with all her goodies out for the world to see and a crib/child's area in the background. Would you still consider her or would you continue your search. I'm not a prude or anything I just feel quite conflicted about sending my child to someone's home who shoots porn in the same space. I'd imagine she would do it when there's no children in her care but from my understanding she watches 4 different children around the clock.

My daughter was 6 weeks premature and requires a decent amount of care. She's a slow frequent eater and takes 2 different medications. Nothing over the top but she can be a bit cranky. So I am nervous and need to be told if I'm being over protective and need to lighten up.

My husband has offered to change shifts but we are both concerned he would sleep through her cries. He doesn't wake up now and I can poke, pull, and smack him and he wouldn't flinch. I have to shake him to death to raise him from his beauty sleep. We are both worried that this is a safety concern. It's not that he doesn't want to or tries he just can't. I've given him a test run a few different times and he didn't hear her or me trying to wake him.