So I have a cousin who had her son almost a year after I had my daughter and  we’ve gotten really close since she had her son and we talk pretty much every day on the phone. I live in California and she lives in Colorado because her husband is military.  recently she’s been talking about choosing godparents for her son, not really anything through the church but I guess just giving someone the godparent title? Like someone that would basically get her son if God forbid something happened to her and I guess just be like a second set of parents to her son. She has a best friend who also lives in California who is married and ttc.  She told me this morning that her and her husband had talked about me and my boyfriend being her sons godparents, but my boyfriend doesn’t really know her like that because as long as we’ve been together, she’s lived out of state and her best friends, husband is good friends with her and her husband as well. I mean obviously it’s her decision but I just thought it was strange that she prefer me and my boyfriend who obviously aren’t married and he doesn’t know her very well over her best friend and her husband who know her and her husband very well and fly out to visit them and the baby often.  she’s also expecting myself and her best friend to fly out to Colorado for her son‘s birthday and her best friend is very willing to go, but I don’t plan on going. And to be fairly honest, I really don’t care for kids, other than my own that much, as messed up as that sounds, so I don’t feel like I would really want to take on the responsibility of taking care of him if God forbid something did happen.  do you think it would be rude of me to tell them that I don’t necessarily want to be his godparents?