Is it true that people with ADHD can forget things seconds after someone says them?

TW: SA mention

My husband and I were making out. I was wearing a dress. He went to touch my butt and moved up my dress. We have cameras in the house because we’ve had people try to break in and we live in an apartment complex so we want to be able to see if any maintenance people come in. Anyway, my dress came up and I said “not around the cameras” and did a tisk sound to be funny. I don’t totally trust that cameras won’t be hacked by third parties so I’m never in revealing positions around them. A minute later, he does it again!

I have trauma from being SA’d and R*ped multiple times so I got triggered. He’s always been good with my No’s. I’ll even just go “um” during sex and he’ll immediately pull out and stop. There’s only been one time that he didn’t hear me the first time I said “ow”, but immediately stopped when he did. He’s never done anything un-consensual . I just want to make that clear.

We’ve been going through a very tough time, even considering divorce.

But that’s not all 🥲 Last night, we went to Target and he put a can of condensed milk in MY bag without telling me and we left the store (he was intending to do what that sounds like). He gave me a smug look when we left the store and I was like what? I checked my bag and there it was. He could have gotten me in serious trouble!! Like why my bag too?? If you’re gonna make a dumbass mistake, at least do it yourself. I gave it to him in the car and told him to go out it back, which he did. I was really upset because we’ve been talking about how he doesn’t respect me or even know what that word means and he literally just disrespected me again!! His reasoning was that he’s having trouble with impulse control.

I just want some opinions on these things, please. We’ve both had really hard things happen recently, life has kind of beat us down.

I just don’t know if I want to try to be with a man who constantly disrespects me. I made another post, explaining that during arguments he gets so defensive that he refuses to listen to my side. He also dismisses my feelings, he’ll apologize later but I’m sick of this happening.

He has BPD btw.

I think that’s all y’all need to know. Please help me 😭😭