Is it wrong for me to be upset at my guy for following accounts of creators posting inherently sexualized content?

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We’ve talked about boundaries and comfort level before, we’re both 21 and have been together for 2 years. He follows public content creator accounts and “the more private content” accounts of these individuals. It’s not OF stuff but I’d never follow accounts of men posing sexualized stuff so I’m kinda confused. Can anyone give input on why he’d follow and If you’d personally want that in a relationship! Thanks !

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I think no one will truly be able to answer this for you. In some relationships that’s perfectly okay and in others it’s viewed as cheating. It all depends on the boundaries you two have in the relationship. If it bothers you this way I’d try talking to him. If he cares he will listen and sympathize with your feelings. If not then you have to decide what to do with that and if you’re comfortable letting the relationship continue

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This isn’t allowed in my relationship and it was a boundary set by my partner from the very start. We’ve both agreed with it and kept it mutual and respected each other. If you laid that boundary down and he said he understood and now he’s breaking it I’d be upset too.

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You don't get to dictate who other grown folks follow on social media.  You dictate your content and he dictates his. I promise those creators are not trying to talk to your man. Those people have 10s or 100s of thousands of people following them. They are after a bag, no some random chick's boyfriend. He doesn't have to be prude because you choose to.

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I personally wouldn’t care but I understand why other women might. At the end of the day if he likes that stuff no amount of talking will get him to stop. He might unfollow them but still go on their page or watch their content privately. If its a dealbreaker for you, then it might be best to move on. You cant change people

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If you have talked to him about this and it’s crossing a boundary of yours you should probably rethink your relationship with him. Each relationship is different and some people are ok with that and some people aren’t. If you’re not ok with it then don’t let it slide, over time you will build up resentment towards him for continually disrespecting you in that way

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No. I don’t tolerate it. I think it’s embarrassing af. My husband doesn’t do this, my brother doesn’t do this. You can find a man who isn’t doing this.

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It’s all dependent on the individual relationship what you have set as boundaries etc 
If it is a dream breaker you need to follow through and make it clear you not happy about it and it’s not working for you due to lack of respect in regards to previously discussed boundaries

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Not wrong. My partner and I think porn is gross, its terrible for mental health, and extremely disrespectful. If your man disagrees then you don’t share the same values and the relationship will fall apart since one of you will have to comply which builds resentment

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Yeah fuck that you deserve the very basic at least. And for me that's respect,  and not breaking boundaries. Give him a taste of his own medicine then bounce.

Is it wrong for me to be upset at my guy for following accounts of creators posting inherently sexualized content?

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