When is it oversharing?

My significant other & his mom have a wonderful relationship. Luckily for me I also have a good relationship with her as well. Unfortunately though, he over shares with her about our relationship or private things going on and it really bothers me. And I’ve made that known. However we haven’t ever fully stopped it either. I finally put my foot down today and said is it just us two in this relationship or us and your mother? Basically it got us no where. Am I being too defensive or what? I don’t know what else to do.