Ok so my daughter's dad can't get it through his head the relationship is over. He'll say is it over? I'll tell him a thousand times it is and he'll keep asking hoping I'll change my mind.

He was such a dead beat to his daughter. Rarely come over, when she was born I had to struggle to take care of a new born and toddler, he would always put his mom first and give her money but me nothing for her, called me names , would not help to keep her ,he weasels out of child support by quiting his job and when I called him out on it he said, " I didn't do it for that reason.. I can't believe you're thinking like that, I didn't know you were like that."

So now he pays the bare minimum. I lost my jobs and everything and he wouldnt lift a finger to help. I had no job and used whatever cash the gov would give to get her necessities and the crazy part is is that this 43 yr old man is only 15minutes away from me.

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Now to the point. He lost his dad and brother back to back so he's been grieving...and he says the holidays won't be the same without them and he wants to spend the holidays with his daughter.

I have no issue its just I don't feel like going over there anymore. I'm so mad at him honestly. If he can't get a ride to do Xmas activities is it wrong if I decide not to go to him?

I feel a bit wrong.

Wdyt? Should I get over it?