Let me start off by saying I have nothing but respect and love for a woman who will step up and care for a child that they did not physically birth… so before all you step moms come after me know that this is about my sons step mother.. not you guys!

I coparent with my ex.. everything was great.. stepmother and I had a good relationship and I actually coparented with her more than my ex.

My ex is a narcissistic,controlling human being .. especially when he is mad. Long story short him and I got into an argument over something so small and insignificant. We have a parenting plan and he wanted to take my son on my Christmas holiday to see his wife’s family in San Francisco. I told him no, it’s my Christmas holiday and I had plans with our son. His wife did not take that well at all… now she won’t say shit to my face because she is a coward but blasted shit about me on Facebook… mind you this chick is almost in her 40’s… grow up!!! Now we are in the NASTY court battle because of the temper tantrums they are both throwing. I had to cancel our family Christmas vacation because I had to pay for a lawyer.. I’m in tears. They are both now trying to litigate everything… he is now trying to come after me for a knee brace from 6 years ago! I paid him my portion in cash (like an idiot) because we were getting along I didn’t feel the need to ask for a receipt. This is all so unreal. Don’t get me wrong I know he is 1000000% to blame, but she is egging this on to a whole different level! She wants this new parenting plan to give her rights when my sons father is not around! Like BITCH! I’m his mother! Not you! This is all financially draining and emotional as well… I have done everything for my son while dad gets to have him twice a week and play “Disney dad”. Not to mention step mother completely spoils him rotten and excuses bad behavior and any punishment I enforce to seem like the “cool mom” my son has started to disrespect me, my career choice and take down to me the way his father does.. any helpful advice?