I was in a relationship for almost 8 years.

He was Christian and at the time I was not.

We tried to get the family to meet, my family accepted him with open arms. He’s considered family and is treated as such. His family, his mother refused to meet me the rest of the family doesn’t challenge the mom on her decision they all follow suit. they know absolutely nothing about me and have never tried to open the door for an opportunity. I’ve never spoken to her or anything. She just doesn’t “feel” that I am who God has for him. We wove 5 states apart I have written to her and no response, I have driven to her state and was refused and turned away. I do share the same beliefs, for me I was disconnected from religion and did not come back to it until I was ready and when I felt it was my genuine intent to purse and try to live my life according to my beliefs. There is nothing in these 8 years we’ve been together that has dicen or divided us except his mother. We have great conflict resolution we get along very well, we have balanced living our lives apart even through long distance for many years. He said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me but, can’t fathom his mother not approving. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, from a conservative Christian mothers perspective, I’m a Christian whos never been in trouble, doesn’t drink or smoke doesn’t have tattoos, dresses conservatively, shares the same exact values she instilled within him. His mother told him she wanted nothing to do with it. We’ve been planning on getting married but he’s been waiting and waiting for her to give him the approval he so desires. I’ve been patient and understanding and everything that most people wouldn’t be in this situation. I told him that no matter what I would always leave the door open for her… maybe she would come around. I couldn’t wait anymore, he kept leading me to believe we were working on leading a life together. I feel stupid for staying, for trusting and for wasting so much time. I’ve thrown away so much time waiting for him it angers me.