my boyfriend and i have been together for six years as of november. he just committed to grad school (i’m halfway through my program), so we will now both be done with our educations come summer of 2024. his education will continue in clinical training, but the university is allowing him to do it from our hometown. i can’t be more excited for the future and for how well it has lined up, given that well both be permanently moving back to our hometown within a few months of each other, but now i can’t help but start to have cold feet.

between starting my first real job in my career, moving in with him, and likely getting engaged and married within 1-3 years after we settle in, im starting to feel overwhelmed by everything even though it’s what i know i want and it’s starting to pan out perfectly. i’m not sure if i’m being hit by a too good to be true feeling or if i’m apprehensive for some other reason. i’ve been in school my whole life so being done with my education forever is already going to be a challenging transition for me. i love learning and interacting with classmates and professors. losing that community and support system may be part of my hesitancy or fear, but i also know i’m just worried of our relationship changing while we’re long distance for the first year of his schooling and maybe after we’ve established ourselves permanently. we lived together for two years in undergrad and everything was fine. we were happy and worked well together.

has anyone else felt cold feet for no reason? i feel like it’s just a lot of change right around the corner. but i’d love any advice on not being as stressed or nervous for it, since it is what i want.