I just need to vent guys…. I’m tired of peoples opinion about my pregnancy

So, here’s the thing I know when people have opinions it is probably because they care about me and the baby and wants us to be ok, I completely get that but there is such a thing as too much. I have family visiting for the holidays and while they’re visiting me it seems like all they do is complain and tell me I shouldn’t carry no body, or I shouldn’t play with my dog, or they complain about my work with at the hospital which requires me to help my patients with getting to bed and repositioning them. This is my first pregnancy so I will literally run everything by my doctor and make sure it is ok and what is not ok. Another thing they complain about is that I still drink coffee, I definitely cut back a lot on the coffee and when I’ve had my cup of coffee already I go for other options at Starbucks that aren’t caffeinated or a decaf. That is when my brother’s girlfriend tells me that me wanting to drink coffee is selfish and to think of the baby etc etc. I just feel like what isn’t healthy is stuff like this everyone is suddenly feeling the right to have an opinion and it stresses me out I feel like that is not healthy. This girl also has done some things I wasn’t happy about either like continuing to smoke weed while she was pregnant and even when the baby was born she smoked it around him and even hot boxed cars with him in it. If you guys read the whole thing thank you for that I just felt like it needed to come out