My husband and I bought our house last year (yay!) not a big house, but perfect for our family, huge 3 car garage fenced in back yard.

Now, our garage we use it for the adults to hang out at night (weekends). My husband smokes weed, if there is a birthday for an adult we will drink and throw a small party with no kids.

Now his brother only calls my husband if he needs something, wants something or wants my husband to do something for him.

He asked us if he could store his tool boxes in our garage, maybe work on his car every once in awhile.

We agreed, as long as we are not responsible for anything stolen, lost or broke. We did not use any of the tools, but in our area, theft is a big thing, so I wanted to be sure it wasn’t on us if that were the case.

He’s used our garage a few times to fix his car up, he’s asked my husband to help him and all that.

He recently called to say, I’m going to come fix my car this day or he’ll do it this day. Basically saying we need to pick a day that he comes to use our garage and need our cars out so he can do so.

My husband said no, first off that’s not how things work, at least ask? Make sure we’re going to be around- you know something more than a this or that.

My husband also said that we have kids, we don’t want people over in case we aren’t going to be home. Really using it as an excuse to not just come whenever it’s convenient for him.

I guess this are my BIL mad/sad because he just got married (June) and they are trying for a baby (we didn’t know this, or that he’s mad because of this).

BIL then had his friends move the tool boxes to another friends house so he doesn’t need my husband anymore.

We only know why he’s so upset because he told their sister. Who tells us everything.

But just yesterday (Christmas) he called my husband to use our air compressor… so literally only when he needs something.

I feel bad that they are having issues conceiving, however 1. We aren’t aware of this

And 2. My husband didn’t say the thing about our kids to throw it in his face AT ALL!

We have three kids, it’s so much work, so stressful, so ugh at times.

Now I’m wondering if my husband is the asshole because he brought our kids into it, or if BIL took it the wrong way because of what he’s going through personally and is taking it out on my husband?

I feel like the sister is saying my husband is the A hole but like, BIL doesn’t call them whenever he needs something. He doesn’t demand they move their plans so he can do something in their home!