My boyfriend (27) and I (22) have been seeing each other for a while but have officially been together for 3 months! I love him to bits and can’t see my life without him.

But lately I keep seeing a pattern and I’m one to rather not cause conflict or start silly arguments but every time I have a family birthday or an event where I give him more the 3 weeks notice he always waits till the week before to tell me his coming or not in case his friends make plans.

I let him know three weeks ago that we were invited to my cousins 21st and it’s kind of the second event we have been invited to from my Zia and Zio. Knowing he has nothing on I told him we got an invite and to keep that day free, he said it’s his mates birthday that week and not sure if his planing anything but will get back to me… we’ll his friend has decided 2 weeks later that he wants to go out on the night of my cousins birthday and the way I look at it is you go to the one you were invited to first no…. Or am I wrong?

So now I don’t know to tell him to come to my cousins and watch him be mopy all night or let him go to his friends and have me embarrassed that I’m by myself again (or his idea is go to half and half but I still think it’s rude) …

Last time he did this was New Year’s <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> when we were invited to another 21st of my cousin (which we had 2 month notice of) and also his mates house (which was planned 3 days before NYE). I worked and finished at 5pm and went straight to my cousins, he went to his friends house from 3pm and I told him that i would like for him to be at my cousins for 7pm and that I would pick him up from my house but I just didn’t want to miss her cut the cake… so what happens he got to mine 7:30 it was a 20 min drive each way and we missed cutting the cake and I was so upset

His even missed my little cousins holy communion…

So I guess what I’m asking is should I tell him how embarrassing it is for me when we both get invited to my family events but he waits for “better plans”.

Like I never know what to tell my family when they ask why his not there bc I’m embarrassed to say “oh his out with his friends”

But keep in mind he literally treats me like a Queen and he does love my family! It’s just annoying that his always waiting for his friends to make plans, and I would understand if it wasn’t a big number birthday or something but it’s his 21st.

Soon will be his cousins 18th and I’m thinking of saying no to going and just go to work or plan to go out.